Jurassic Park

~ We Get What We Create ~

I have a friend who recently divorced her husband and she was very hurt that her husband left her after he got a good job and girls at work started to spend more time with him.

She's not an unattractive girl and capable at work too. In fact, since they were courting during their school days, she was the one always giving him career advice and guiding him where to go. He is tall and good looking but he lacked ambition generally. He was rather contented being pushed instead of taking charge of his own life.

About two years ago, she arranged a great job for him and it happened to fit him like a glove. He performed very well, getting better as each month passed and the respect he got from his colleagues encouraged him to direct his energies to getting even better at his job! Finally, after so many years, he reclaimed his purpose in life!

Female colleagues started to become interested in him as he started increasing in social value at work. At a certain point, it did look like he was having an affair at work. One day, his wife decided to talk to him about it, and they clarified that he was not having an affair, but he also said that he decided they both needed to separate. He finally found his meaning in life and though he loved her, he wanted to make choices in his own life.

Of course, she was devastated and felt that she has given him so many things, even set up the great job for him and then he just leaves her like that.

I asked her: "Have you watched Jurassic Park before?"

Clearly, it was a blank look that I got back. Probably thinking - what in the world is this guy thinking about? I just got divorced and I should worry about some silly show?

If you remember the movie Jurassic Park, the scientists there wanted to create the ultimate zoo adventure of extinct dinosaurs. They wanted future generations of young children to get a real world experience of walking among dinosaurs.

Well, the scientists did a great job with cross fertilizing the eggs and they created a bunch of dinosaurs in their enormous wildlife prehistoric zoo. Things were going fine when the dinosaurs were still young and intimidated by the high enclosures. The electric fence and big weapons could still keep them in place.

The problems came when the dinosaurs grew up into big adult dinosaurs.

"And dinosaurs being dinosaurs - do not want to be caged up."

They tore down the enclosure walls and started hunting humans for lunch. Sounds like history repeating itself, but that's what dinosaurs do, don't they?

Well, sometimes in our relationships, we want our partner to grow up to be a certain way - maybe become an independent man or a sexy woman.

We nag at them day in and day out to grow up.

Well, one day they might just grow up. - the man you wanted to become stronger, does become strong and independent. At that point, an independent man decides that he needs to spread his wings and leave his "motherly" wife.

A woman who becomes sexy and vivacious then finds that she has to leave her boring, insecure husband because he is restricting her life.

Then probably the man might complain she is ungrateful for walking out like this on him, after he has "done so much" for her.

Well - dinosaurs will be dinosaurs - they eat people by nature. Not good, not bad. Just what they do.

So, to my friend, I would say, you are actually a very good teacher. You taught your husband so well to be an independent man and he passed the test with flying colours.

Are you aware of where you are pushing your partners today?

"We get what we create" - unfortunately, in most relationships, most people do not know what they are creating, they unwittingly put ingredients that are explosive together.

It is wonderful to encourage and help your partner to grow in character and strength. In fact, that is the basis of relationships. Why would I want to be in a relationship if I can do everything the same as a single person? The critical difference is the gifts that we each can give to our loved ones in that process.

Each of us have special gifts and hidden fears, sometimes in our goodness to want to give our gifts, we express it in a way that causes our fears to grow.

My friend's husband left because he felt that no matter how good he became, his wife would probably not be as encouraging of him as his new friends were. The dinosaurs broke out of their enclosures because they thought the scientists are predators who would kill them if they did not fight for themselves.

Both responses were driven by fear, and when a fearful person has gathered a little strength that person would use that strength to fight their way out - a survival instinct.

As loving life partners we want to learn to encourage and support our loved ones to grow in a safe environment. We want to give them the gift of safety while infusing the strength to grow. There is a technique and a strategy to this. It is simple, but it has to be learnt.

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Passion - The Unstoppable Way to Love!

Winston Ng

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